One of the things that Andrew and I struggle with is finding balance in our lives in terms of how we prioritize our time and money. I'm sure everyone can relate to having limited time away from work and limited money so I assume others may have similar struggles. There's always more that we want to do than we can do. Lately we've been thinking a lot about this balance in terms of making improvements to our house.
We both work full-time at office jobs, and when we're not at work we prioritize spending our time doing things we enjoy - skiing, rafting, camping, spending time at the cabin, hiking, fishing, and when we can, traveling. Ever since we bought our house and paid off our cabin two and half years ago, we have prioritized investing our money in allowing ourselves to do these activities. We've spent our money on travel and new gear and a truck with high clearance and 4WD. And, it is wonderful. We spend a lot of time outside doing things we love.
BUT, this has meant that we haven't invested much time or money in our house. Luckily we bought a solid house that the previous owners had upgraded. It was move-in ready three years ago, and we haven't changed much. While it is in great condition and we're lucky that there is nothing that has to be fixed or anything that we absolutely hate, there are still some things we'd like to do like paint all of the rooms and install new fixtures in the bathroom and build closets for the master bedroom.
So, I got this far in writing this post, and I've realized that I have just answered my own question. As I write out that list, I know that I don't want to prioritize new fixtures over a season pass or spending my weekends painting the house over spending a weekend on the river. But I feel guilty about that. When I see all of the projects that our friends and acquaintances take on around their houses, I feel like we should be doing more. Maybe we talk about this balance a lot at our house because we're trying to justify our choices to ourselves.
Rationally, I know there's no reason that we need to justify our choices or even explain them, but that guilt creeps in. Do you ever feel guilty about how you prioritize your time or money?